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Thursday, October 28, 2010

Be a Really Good Wife / Husband.....


Let me tell you the ways to get to his heart
Delicious food is where you should start

A really good meal – there’s nothing like it
Be it steak or biryani, kebabs or fish

When he returns home from work, greet him at the door
A really nice smile will please him for sure

Elegant clothes, make-up, perfume applied
All these things make for an attractive wife.

Serve him his meal and do it with style
The domestic woes can wait for a while.

Be a good listener – Was his day alright?
Be ready to give him support and advice

When he’s home, try to be there for him
No friend can be more important than him

If he wants to go out put everything aside
Let your company be the best thing in life

Be smiling and cheerful and do make him laugh
This is one more way of keeping his heart

Use wisdom and tact when dealing with him
Nothing can be gained by fighting with him

If he does say something which you don’t like
Do give it some thought, perhaps he’s right

As for his money, do spend it with care
Remember all the hard work it took to get there

Be grateful to him in deeds, words and thoughts
Ingratitude to husbands is disliked by God

If you do all this, it’ll improve your life
For marital bliss makes this world Paradise

And think of the reward there is in the Next
It’ll motivate you into doing your best.


For a woman, a good husband is the best thing in life
This very world can become Paradise

What are the things he should do and not do
Keep on reading and I will tell you

Be generous with money, there’s no doubting this
It’s an important ingredient of marital bliss

Spending on family is rewarded by God
If done with the intention of pleasing the Lord

He should treat his wife well, express his love
Appreciate her for all that she does

When he comes home from work, greet her and smile
Realise that household chores is no easy life

He should share in the housework, lend her a hand
Be patient with her, sometimes say “Thanks’

A compliment or two also goes a long way
‘I just loved the food you cooked today.”

Avoid scolding her and in fact, he should try
To not say things that will make her cry

A woman is sensitive - it’s the emotions in her
That makes her so loving, and a fine nurturer

If she should err, rather than shout
Explain to her gently what it’s all about

As for important decisions in life
He should take them after consulting his wife

She is after all, his partner and friend
Happily together should their life be spent

It’s a great opportunity, not to be lost
Why go for conflict when life is so short

I urge you my friend, take my advice
Be kind, patient, generous, enjoy Paradise.


Self-Realization - Think about this!!!

It's another morning......... Again I have to go to the office.

Ohh!! this is me... I shouted, having a glance at my ‘photo’ in today's news paper.

But what the HELL is it doing in the death column??

One second.......Let me think, last night when I was going to bed I had a severe pain in my chest,
but I don't remember anything after that, I think I had a sound sleep.

It's morning now, ohh....... It's already 10:00 AM, where is my coffee?
I will be late for office and my boss will get a ! chance to irritate me..
Where is everyone...??? I screamed.
"I think there is a crowd outside my room, let me check." I said to myself.
So many people..... Not all of them crying......But why are some of them crying....
WHAT IS THIS??? I’m lying there on the floor...
"I AM HERE" ....... I shouted!!! No one is listening.

"LOOK I AM NOT DEAD" .... I screamed once again!! No one is interested in me.

They all were looking at me on the bed. I went back to my bed room.
"Am I dead??" I asked myself...

Where is my wife, my children, my Mom, my Dad, my friends?
I found them in the next room, all of them were crying...still trying to console each other.
My wife was crying... she was really looking sad.
My little kid was not sure what happened, but he was crying just because his Mom was sad..
How can I go without saying to my kid that I really love him,
I really do care for him. ??
How can I go without saying to my wife tha! t she is really the most beautiful and most caring wife in
this world..??
How can I go without saying to my parents that I’m what I am ... just because of you??
How can I go without telling my friends that without them perhaps I would have done most of the
wrong things in my life... thanks for being there always when I need them...and sorry for not being
there when they really need me..

I can see a person standing in the corner and trying to hide his tears....
Oh.... he was once my best friend, but a small misunderstanding made us part, and we both have a
strong enough ego to keep us disconnected.
I went there..... And offered him my hand, "Dear friend.... I just want to say sorry for everything, we are still best friends,
please forgive me."
No response from other side, what the hell?? He is still preserving his ego, I am saying sorry... even
I really don't care for such people.
But one second...... It seems he is not able to see me!!!! He did not see my extended hand.
My goodness...... AM I REALLY DEAD???
I just sat down near ME; I was also feeling like crying...
I just want to make my wife, my parents; my friends realize how much I love them.....
My wife entered the room, she looks beautiful. "YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL" I shouted.
She didn't hear my words, in fact she never heard these words because I never said this to her.
"GOD!!!!" I screamed... a little more timeplzzzzz... I cried...
One more chance please... to hug my child, to make my mom smile just once, to feel my dad proud of me
at least for a moment, to say sorry to my friends for everything I have not given to them, and thanks for still being in my life....
Then I looked up and cried!!
I shouted.......

"You shouted in your sleep," said my wife as she gently woke me up. "Did you have a nightmare?"
I was sleeping....
Ohh that was just a dream....
My wife was there... she can hear me... This is the happiest moment of my life...
I hugged her and whispered....
I can't understand the reason of the smile on her face with some tears in her eyes, still I’m happy....

SO, now it's not late... Forget the egos, the Past... and express your love to others.......

Be friendly... Keep smiling...... forever.... It’s another chance For you...

Someone, who realize the life sent me this letter, and I am so touched…. What about you........?

Why is April 1st !! A day to celebrate foolishness???

Holidays are celebrated for all sorts of reasons. Some honor heroes, others commemorate religious events, but April 1 stands out as the only holiday that celebrates foolishness. April Fools' Day, or All Fools Day, is an odd celebration with a strange history. What other holiday asks us to play tricks and dupe our unsuspecting friends and acquaintances?

There's some uncertainty about when and where this bizarre tradition began, but the most accepted explanation traces April Fools' Day back to 16th century France. Up until 1564, the accepted calendar was the Julian calendar, which observed the beginning of the New Year around April. According to "The Oxford Companion to the Year," King Charles IX then declared that France would begin using the Gregorian calendar, which shifted New Year's Day to January 1.

Not everyone accepted this shifting of dates at the same time. Some believed that the dates should not be shifted, and it was these people who became the butt of some April jokes and were mocked as fools. People sent gifts and invited them to bogus parties. Citizens in the rural parts of France were also victims of these jokes. In those days, news traveled slowly and they might not have known about the shifting of dates for months or years. These people also endured being made fun of for celebrating the new year on the wrong day.


Today in France, people who are fooled on April 1 are called Poisson d'Avril, which literally means the "April Fish." One common joke is to hook a cardboard fish to the back of a person. What a fish has to do with April Fools' Day is not clear. Some believe that the fish is tied to Jesus Christ, who was often represented as a fish in early Christian times. Others say the fish is related to the zodiac sign of Pisces, which is represented by a fish, and falls near April. It's interesting to point out that Napoleon earned the Poisson d'Avril monicker when he married Marie-Louise of Austria on April 1, 1810.

It's probably no coincidence that April Fools' Day is celebrated at the same time that two other similar holidays are celebrated. In ancient Rome, the festival of Hilaria was thrown to celebrate the resurrection of the god Attis. Hilaria is probably the base word for hilarity and hilarious, which mean great merriment. Today, Hilaria is also known as Roman Laughing Day. In India, the Holi festival celebrates the arrival of spring. As a part of that festival, people play jokes and smear colors on each other.

There's no clear connection between the modern observance of April Fools' Day and these two ancient celebrations, which lends most historians to accept the French explanation for how April Fools' Day developed

Story - Self-Confidence

Self Confidence. . .

A businessman was deep in debt and could see no way out. Creditors were closing in on him. Suppliers were demanding payment. He sat on the park bench, head in hands, wondering if anything could save his company from bankruptcy.

Suddenly an old man appeared before him.

"I can see that something is troubling you," he said.

After listening to the executive's woes, the old man said, "I believe I can help you."

He asked the man his name, wrote out a check, and pushed it into his hand saying, "Take this money.
Meet me here exactly one year from today, and you can pay me back at that time."

Then he turned and disappeared as quickly as he had come.

The business executive saw in his hand a check for $500,000 signed by John D. Rockefeller, then one of the richest men in the world!

"I can erase my money worries in an instant!" he realized. But instead, the executive decided to put the uncashed check in his safe.

Just knowing it was there might give him the strength to work out a way to save his business, he thought.

With renewed optimism, he negotiated better deals and extended terms of payment.
He closed several big sales. Within a few months, he was out of debt and making money once again.

Exactly one year later, he returned to the park with the uncashed check. At the agreed-upon time, the old man appeared. But just as the executive was about to hand back the check and share his success story, a nurse came running up and grabbed the old man.

"I'm so glad I caught him!" she cried. "I hope he hasn't been bothering you.
He's always escaping from the rest home and telling people he's John D. Rockefeller. "

And she led the old man away by the arm.

The astonished executive just stood there, stunned. All year long he'd been wheeling and dealing, buying and selling, convinced he had half a million dollars behind him.

Suddenly, he realized that it wasn't the money, real or imagined, that had turned his life around.

It was his newfound self-confidence that gave him the power to achieve anything he went after.

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Story - No one can hurt you without your consent

On the first day, as President Abraham Lincoln entered to give his inaugural address, just in the middle, one man stood up. He was a rich aristocrat. He said, “Mr. Lincoln, you should not forget that your father used to make shoes for my family.” And the whole Senate laughed; they thought they had made a fool of Abraham Lincoln.

But Lincoln --- and that type of people are made of a totally different mettle. Lincoln looked at the man and said, “Sir I know that my father used to make shoes in your house for your family, and there will be many others here…. Because the way he made shoes; nobody else can.
He was a creator. His shoes were not just shoes; he poured his whole soul in it. I want to ask you, have you any complaint? Because I know how to make shoes myself. If you have any complaint I can make another pair of shoes. But as far as I know, nobody has ever complained about my father’s shoes. He was a genius, a great creator and I am proud of my father”.

The whole Senate was struck dumb. They could not understand what kind of man Abraham Lincoln was. He was proud because his father did the job so well that not even a single complaint had ever been heard.

“No one can hurt you without your consent.”

“It is not what happens to us that hurts us. It is our response that hurts us.”

Fact - If u lose your mobile in India , you can get it back

Got an interesting fact to share... Nowadays each one of us carries Hi – Fi Mobile devices and always fears that it may be stolen.
Each mobile carries a unique IMEI i.e. International Mobile Identity No which can be used to track your mobile anywhere in the world.
This is how it works!!!!!!

1. Dial *#06# from your mobile.
2. Your mobile shows a unique 15 digit.
3. Note down this no anywhere but except your mobile as this is the no which will help trace your mobile in case of a theft.
4. Once stolen you just have to mail this 15 digit IMEI no. to
5. No need to go to police.
6. Your Mobile will be traced within next 24 hrs via a complex system of GPRS and internet.
7. You will find where your hand set is being operated even in case your no is being changed.

If you lose your mobile, send an e-mail to with the following info.

A JOKE - Enthusiastic Salesman

A new vacuum cleaner salesman knocked on the door on the First house of the street.

A tall lady answered the door.

Before she could speak, the enthusiastic salesman barged into the living room and opened a big black plastic bag and poured all the cow droppings onto the carpet.

"Madam, if I could not clean this up within 5 minutes with the use of this new

Powerful Vacuum cleaner, I will EAT all this dung!" exclaimed the eager salesman.

"Do you need chilly sauce or ketchup with that" .asked the lady.

The bewildered salesman asked, "Why, madam?"

"There's no electricity in the house..." said the lady


There was a father who called his 5 small children together.

As the sat together in a circle on the floor the dad placed a toy in the middle.

He explained to them that he won this toy as a door prize and he wanted to give it to one of them.

He asked them "who is the most obedient?"

Five sets of eyes looked up at him.

Sensing that they didn't understand the word he then asked, "ok, who always obeys mommy, and does everything she says?"

One of the children picked up the toy and handed it to the father. "You win!" exclaimed the child.

Life Explained by Scientific Graphs

Guide to a Better Life

This is amazing, he died of pancreatic cancer in 2008, but wrote a book ‘The last lecture” before then, one of the bestsellers in 2007. What a legacy to leave behind

In a letter to his wife Jai and his children, Dylan, Logan , and Chloe, he wrote this beautiful "guide to a better life" for his wife and children to follow.
May you be blessed by his insight.



1. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
2. Don't have negative thoughts of things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment
3. Don't over do; keep your limits
4. Don't take yourself so seriously; no one else does
5. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip
6. Dream more while you are awake
7. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need..
8. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner of his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
9. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
10. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present
11. No one is in charge of your happiness except you
12. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn.
Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
13. Smile and laugh more
14. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.


15. Call your family often
16. Each day give something good to others
17. Forgive everyone for everything
18. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6
19. Try to make at least three people smile each day
20. What other people think of you is none of your business
21. Your job will not take care of you when you are sick. Your family and friends will. Stay in touch.


22. Put GOD first in anything and everything that you think, say and do.

23. GOD heals everything
24. Do the right things
25. However good or bad a situation is, it will change
26. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up
27. The best is yet to come
28. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful
29. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it
30. If you know GOD you will always be happy. So, be happy.

While you practice all of the above, share this knowledge with the people you love, people you school with,
people you play with, people you work with and people you live with.
Not only will it enrich YOUR life, but also that of those around you.

Differences between Westerners and Asians

Differences between Westerners and Asians  


Great analysis and understanding between Asian culture and Western Logic.
  Key:     Blue --> Westerners       Red --> Asians

(1) Opinion
Westerners: Talk to the point.

Asians: Talk around in circles, especially if opinions differ.

(2) Way of Life
Westerners: Individualism - think of himself or herself.

Asians: Enjoy gatherings with family and friends, solving their problems, and know each other's business.

(3) Punctuality

Westerners: On time.

Asians: In time.

(4) Contacts

Westerners: Contact related person only.

Asians: Contact everyone everywhere, business very successful.

(5) Anger

Westerners: Show that I am angry.

Asians: I am angry, but still smiling... (beware!)

(6) Queue when Waiting

Westerners: Queuing in an orderly manner
Asians: Queuing?  What's that?

(7) Sundays on the Road

Westerners: Enjoy weekend relaxing peacefully.

Asians: Enjoy weekend in crowded places, like going to the mall.

(8) Party

Westerners: Only gather with their own group.

Asians: All focus on the one activity that is hosted by the CEO.

(9) In the restaurant

Westerners: Talk softly and gently in the restaurant.

Asians: Talk and laugh loudly like they own the restaurant.

(10) Travelling

Westerners: Love sightseeing and enjoy the scenery.
Asians: Taking pictures is most important; scenery is just for the background.

(11) Handling of Problems

Westerners: Take any steps to solve the problems.

Asians: Try to avoid conflicts, and if can, don't leave any trail.

(12) Three meals a day

Westerners: A good meal once a day is sufficient.

Asians: At least 3 good meals a day.

(13) Transportation

Westerners: In the past, they drove cars.  Now, they cycle to protect the environment.
Asians: In the past, not enough money and rode on bicycles.  Now, got enough money and so drive cars.

(14) Elderly in day-to-day life

Westerners: When old, there is doggy for companionship.

Asians: When old, guarantee will not be lonely so long willing to babysit grandchildren.

(15) Moods and Weather

Westerners: The logic is
: rain is pain.
Asians: More rain, more prosperity.

(16) The Boss

Westerners: The boss is part of the team.

Asians: The boss is a fierce God.

(17) What's Trendy

Westerners: Eat healthy Asian cuisine.

Asians: Eat expensive Western cuisine.

(18) The Child

Westerners: The kid is going to be independent and make his/her own living.

Asians: Slog whole life for the kid, the centre of your life.

2010 - உலகின் தலை சிறந்த ஹீரோ

2010 – உலகின் தலை சிறந்த ஹீரோ ஒரு தமிழன்

திரைப்படங்களை ரசியுங்கள் ரசிகர்களே. அதில் உங்கள் ஹீரோ செய்வதெல்லாம் நிஜம் என்று மட்டும் நம்பி விடவேண்டாம். உண்மையான ஹீரோ உங்கள் பகுதியில் நேர்மையாகவும், தியாக உணர்வோடும் , சேவை மனப்பான்யுடனும் , துணிவுடனும் உழைத்துகொண்டிருப்பார்கள் ஒரு ராணுவ வீரராக , தீயணைப்பு வீரராக, காவல் துறை அதிகாரியாக, ஆசிரியாராக, சமுக சேவகராக, துப்புரவு தொழிலாளியாக மற்றும் நேர்மையாக உழைத்து சம்பாதிக்கும் எவருமாக இருக்கலாம். அவர்களை சந்திக்கும் சமயத்தில் ஒரு நன்றி சொல்வோம் , பாராட்டுவோம். அவர்களில் யாரேனும் கவுன்சிலர் தேர்தலில் நிற்கக்கூடும். நின்றால் காசுக்கு ஆசைபடாமல் ஒட்டு போடுவோம்.
இப்போது அப்படி ஒரு நிஜமான ஹீரோவை உங்களுக்கு இந்த பதிவின் வாயிலாக அறிமுகபடுத்துகிறேன். இவர் உலகப்புகழ் பெற்ற CNN இணையதளத்தில் உலகின் தலை சிறந்த ரியல் ஹீரோக்களில் முதல் பத்தில் ஒருவராக தேர்ந்தெடுக்கப்பட்டு உள்ளார். ஒரு தமிழனாக, மதுரைகாரனாக ரெம்பவும் பெருமை படுகிறேன். இன்னும் வாக்கு பதிவு நடந்து கொண்டிருகிறது. இதில் தேர்ந்தெடுக்கப்படும் ஹீரோக்கள் அமெரிக்காவில் நவம்பர் மாதம் 25 ஆம் தேதியில் Shrine ஆடிடோரியம், Los Angeles இல் நடக்கும் ஒரு பெரும் விழாவில் கௌரவிக்க பட இருக்கிறார்கள். இது CNN தொலைகாட்சியில் இந்திய நேரம் காலை எட்டு மணி ( நமக்கு நவம்பர் 26 ஆம் தேதி ) உலகம் முழுக்க நேரலை ஒளிபரப்பில் காட்டப்பட இருக்கிறது. இதற்காக நாம் ஒவ்வொரு இந்தியனும், தமிழனும் பெருமை பட வேண்டும். ஆஸ்கார் சாதனையை விட இது தான் மகத்தான சாதனை.
பெயர் : நாராயணன் கிருஷ்ணன்
வயது : 29இருப்பு : மதுரை

அப்படி என்ன செய்து விட்டார்?
அது நினைத்துபார்கவும் முடியாத கருணை செயல்.

தான் யார் என்றே அறியாத சித்த சுவாதீனம் கொண்ட மனிதர்களை நாம் சிறு கருணையுடனும் அல்லது கொஞ்சம் அருவருப்புடனும் கடந்து செல்வோம். சில சமயம் காசு போடுவோம். அதற்கும் மேல் என்ன செய்வோம்? அதை மறக்க முயற்சிப்போம். ஆனால் இவர் அவர்களை தேடி சென்று தினமும் மூன்று வேளை உணவு தருகிறார். அருவருப்பில்லாமல் ஊட்டி விடுகிறார்.கடந்த எட்டு வருடங்களாக ஒரு நாள் தவறாமல் இந்த சேவையை இவர் தொடர்ந்து செய்து வருகிறார். மழை, புயல்,தேர்தல்,கலவரம், பந்த் என்று எதுவும் பாராமல் வருடம் முழுக்க இந்த சேவையை செய்து வருகிறார். தினமும் 400 பேருக்கு மூன்று வேளை உணவு என்பது சாதாரணம் இல்லை. இது வரை ஒரு கோடியே இருபது லட்சம் உணவு பொட்டலங்கள் விநியோகிக்கபட்டுள்ளது.
ஒரு ஐந்து நட்சத்திர ஹோட்டலில் வேலை பார்த்த, விருதுகள் வென்ற செப் சமையல் கலை வல்லுநர் இவர். சுவிட்சர்லாந்தில் ஒரு பெரிய ஹோட்டல் நிறுவனத்தில் வேலை கிடைத்தவுடன் அதை பெற்றோர்களிடம் சொல்லிவிட்டு போவதற்காக மதுரைக்கு வந்தவர் அங்கே ஒரு வயது முதிர்ந்த ஒரு கிழவர் மலத்தை உணவாக உண்ணும் அவலத்தை கண்டு பெரும் அதிர்ச்சிக்குள்ளாகி தனது வெளிநாட்டு வேலையை துறந்து மதுரையிலேயே தங்கி வீட்டில் சமைத்து அதை இது போன்ற மனிதர்களை தேடி சென்று உணவு கொடுக்க ஆரம்பிக்கிறார். இது நடந்தது 2002 . இன்றும் இவரது சேவை தொடர்கிறது மதுரையை சுற்றி நூறு கிலோமீட்டர் பரப்பளவில் கண்ணில் படும் இதுபோன்ற மனிதர்களை தேடிபிடித்து உணவு தருகிறார். இதற்காக இவர் தன்னுடைய வாழ்கையை முழுமையாக அர்பணித்துள்ளார். இவரது அன்னை இவர் குறித்து கவலை பட்டு அழுதபோது, “அம்மா ஒரு நாள் என்னோடு வாங்க. நான் என்ன செய்கிறேன் என்று பாருங்கள் அப்புறம் நீங்கள் சொல்வதை கேட்கிறேன்என்று சொல்லி அழைத்து போயிருக்கிறார். இவரது சேவையை கண்டு மனம் உருகிய அந்த தாய்நீ இவர்களை பார்த்துக்கொள், நான் உள்ளவரை உன்னை பார்த்துகொள்கிறேன்என்று சொல்லிருக்கிறார். இதை படித்த போது என் கண்களில் நீர் முட்டிக்கொண்டு வந்ததை அடக்க முடியாமல் தவித்தேன். எழுதும் இந்த கணமும் கூட.
நாம் இங்கே நம்மை ஏமாற்றும் திரை நட்சத்திரங்களை ஹீரோ என்று சொல்லி தலையில் வைத்து கொண்டாடுகிறோம். பாலபிசேகம் முதல் முளைப்பாரி வரை எண்ணற்ற பைத்தியகாரத்தனத்தை அந்த ஹீரோக்களுக்காக செய்கிறோம். முதல் நாள் அவர்கள் படங்களை பார்க்க ஆயிரம், இரண்டாயிரம் செலவழிக்க தயங்குவதில்லை. சரி கொடுகிரீர்கள் அந்த அளவுக்கு உரித்தான கலைபடைப்பையாவது அவர்கள் தருகிறார்களா? அவர்கள் என்ன செய்தார்கள். நானும் கொடை செய்கிறேன் என்று சொல்லி சிலவற்றை செய்து பத்திரிகைகளில் மறக்காமல் செய்தி கொடுக்கிறார்கள். அவர்கள் இவரின் கால் தூசுக்கு கூட பொருந்த மாட்டார்கள். இவர் தான் உண்மையான ஹீரோ. சாகசம் செய்வது சாதனை அல்ல. இல்லாதவர்க்கு தேடிசென்று ஈவதே சாதனை. எனக்கு இவர் தான் என்றென்றும் ஹீரோ. இவரை பார்க்கவும், இவருடன் புகைப்படம் எடுத்துகொள்ளவும், இவருடன் ஒரு நாள் இருந்து சிறு உதவியேனும் செய்யவும், பொருள் உதவி செய்யவும், இவரை பற்றி எழுதவும் பேசவும் பெரும் ஆவல் கொள்கிறேன், பெரும் பெருமை கொள்கிறேன் எனது ஹீரோ ஒரு மகத்தானவன் என்பதில்.
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